Self criticism…Self poisoning…Self destruction…The act of dragging one self down has many names. It is the killer of life-force. Self criticism or criticising others, it does not matter. Our subconscious mind does not know the difference between the two. People who have a huge need to criticise others have a tendency to have a strong inner critic. They replay the words that was handed down to them in their own upbringing. In this way we transfer that energy through generations. Where will it end? Have you already stopped this epidemic from spreading down your bloodline? The less we criticise others, the more positive our self talk will get, it boosts self love and it will definitely raise your vibration!
I love asking questions, because they unlock potential and resources. They open doors to new worlds. I want to suggest that you take a moment and reflect over these questions:
How would the world be different if we started to support ourselves the same way as we support a baby that learns how to walk?
What effect would that have on the collective energy? 80% more empowering? What would happen if our self talk got 50% more uplifting and empowering than now?
What is the worst thing that could happen if you stopped criticising others (self talk and directly)?
What is the intention behind criticism in the first place?
If you catch yourself in a negative inner dialog about yourself or others – imagine that your inner voice becomes a Mickey Mouse voice, or your own voice after inhaling helium. If a person have the tendency to say for example “I am not good enough, I am not smart enough, I can´t do this, etc” Saying it with a Mickey Mouse, helium or Donald Duck voice will change the energy of the negative statement.The neurological signals and chemistry in the brain become entirely different. Do it now and feel it for yourself.
It also works to imagine other peoples voice in this way. Be creative. How about doing negative self talk with a really sexy voice…Or a sexy helium voice… 🙂
Oh yes. Focusing on a problem is like throwing gasoline on a fire. Every time we criticise we reinforce the problem. We are connected. My energy and focus have an effect on my surroundings. If we want to create change we have to focus on how we want it to be. We can´t change others. Especially not by criticising. We can get conscious, and stop the negative self talk, change focus; change energy. When you change focus, it is not about neglecting the problem, or saying that everything is ok. It is about doing something that creates change, instead of holding on to the negative loop. Holding on to the problem for the sake of “punishing” someone else is self punishment.
Doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting something different to happen is the definition of madness. – Einstein
We are here to shine! Empowering self talk makes us more confident, happy, fulfilled, peaceful, free, loving, healthy and abundant in all areas of life. It makes you shine stronger! I have a quote from Marianne Williamson´s book A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles. It is a great reminder for me and my family, that is why it is hanging on our fridge. I love reminders. I want to share it:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
You deserve all good in life. Take care brothers and sisters.