How Do You KNOW it´s true?

Human beings are experts in interpreting and imagining what other people think about them. We interpret based on what we think is true. You know what? We misinterpret a lot! Which in turn creates a lot of worry that could have been avoided. What you think is true, might be far from the truth…

Lena had just got her dream job and was excited for her first day. During lunch while she is sitting having a good conversation with her new colleagues, her boss comes over and whispers in her ear; «after lunch I will gather everyone in the meeting room, and I want you to present yourself.» When everyone meets, their boss does a little introduction before Lena stands up nervously. Her heart beat is so loud that she is certain that the other people in the room can hear it. She begins talking about herself. Her colleagues look at her, nod and smile. Lena thinks; ”Do I have something in my teeth or something hanging out of my nose since they are smiling like that?” She keeps talking. One of her colleagues bounces up out of his chair and storms out the door. Lena thinks: ” What did I say wrong?”. She keeps talking. One of them looks at her watch. Lena assumes, ” I am so boring to listen to.” She finishes and sits down totally exhausted. The thoughts Lena had about the other’s reactions, are they true? Let us take a closer look at this.

Her colleagues look at her, nod and smile. Lena is thinking; ”Do I have anything in my teeth or something hanging out of my nose since they are smiling like that?”

Colleague 1 is thinking: I’m looking forward to work with Lena.

Colleague 2 is thinking: Lena is a nice woman.

Colleague 3 is thinking: Finally a colleague that fits right in to our environment.

Lena is imagining what her colleagues think and feel, but she does not know for certain. Since her thoughts are creating reactions and emotions in her, they seem real, even if they are not. What would happen if Lena chooses to think; ” How do I know that my thoughts are true?”

One of her colleagues bounces up from the chair and storm out the door without saying something. Lena is thinking: ” What did I say wrong now?” This colleague just got a text that his wife is on her way to the hospital to birth their child. Why is Lena so certain that this is about her? What would happen if she was aware why her colleague ran off that way?

One of them looks at her watch. Lena is thinking ” I’m so boring to listen to.” Her colleague had bid on the house of her dreams and it’s only a couple of minutes before her real estate agent calls her again, and she always has to look at her watch, because she is so excited. Why is Lena convincing herself that this means she is boring to listen to? How would she feel if she had chosen not to let her imagination run wild?

How do you know that what you are thinking is true?

How much worry have you brought on yourself by interpreting things in a negative and unresourceful way? You have responsibility over your own thoughts. How would your life be different if you had stopped imagining what other people think of you? If you absolutely must interpret without knowing, then why not interpret things to your advantage? What would happen if you started noticing now what it is you interpretate as real and what is fact.

Do you wish to let go of unnecessary worry and get more confidence instead? Then I would like to suggest you:

Immediately when you notice that you are interpreting reality as; He looked funny at me, she’s mad at me, he did not say «hi», that means he doesn´t like me, etc. Ask yourself; Do I KNOW this is 100% true, or is this my interpretation? A genius question, that successful coaches use a lot, is: «How do I know this is true?» The only way to KNOW your thoughts about the situation is true is if the other person honestly tell you what he or she really thinks. The things we experience daily can mean a million different things.

Instead make it supportive. For example: He did not look at me, he is cocky. But, there could be many reasons he did not look at me.” LET IT GO. The truth is that he did not look at you. LET GO of the need to make an interpretation of everything and experience how much more freedom you will feel. You´ll communicate easier and understand other people better. Things that did not make you calm, now makes you calm.

Your life is a movie and you are the main character. You write the script and you are the producer and director. Have you forgotten that? You are writing your script every day. You decide the content and the story in your movie. It is you who decide what can change and what you want more of. So what do you want to change in your movie? What do you want more of?

“Your brain will never make you a liar. What you believe is true will make your brain and body react as it is the truth, even though it is just your imagination running wild.”

From The Heart,

Kenneth Soares

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Thank you for being here. I´m Kenneth, a Loving Soul, here to learn, teach and shine my Light. I am co-creator of PowerThoughts Meditation Club. My life purpose is to be of service and support in the Awakening process here on Mother Earth. I do so with Love and Enthusiasm, with Courage and Kindness, with Power and Integrity. I AM a 'consciousness expander and a heart-activator. We are here to WAKE UP and take full charge and responsibility for our lives, so that all Organic and Loving Lifeforms can co-create a world of UNITY, LOVE, PEACE, AND FREEDOM. I hope you´ll get something valuable out of the energy and information I share with you. From heart to heart...From Soul to Soul...